Sexplanations:)

[mrdreamjeans]

"Isn't it better to feel something intensely even if you're wounded in the process?"

I'm pondering this question from a novel I just finished reading. It's talking about relationships, but I suppose it could apply to friendships and even to specific fetishes and sex acts.

I know emotional wounding is hard for me to take when it happens; but I think I would rather risk that, then feel nothing at all.

I am desiring a sexplanation:)

Comments

[ciddyguy.livejournal.com]

Neil,

I lost a good friend over something that could've been avoided from all parties. The feeling was miserable. I really liked what I knew of the guy, even though we never met in person, just over the internet.

That feeling is largely gone now (been just over 2 years now).

While I would not wish emotional wounding on anyone, I can relate when someone is in a similar situation.

On a similar veign, I didn't loose a friend per se, but she was grounded for the summer and I was forbidden from seeing her, even though she lived next door. It all was because of cigarettes, or her dad finding out she had a pack and I was connected to them, but I was the one who told the truth about where she really got started etc to her father as he delivered the papers that day after he discovered the cigs inside the scooter seat storage compartment. She almost lost her scooter because of it, but since I told the truth, she was able to keep it, my only evidence of a resolution.

I was so angst ridden that summer, had strong feelings of deja vu off and on, and could not play two tracks from the Car's first LP Living in Stereo and All Mixed Up because of what they sang about. It brought out so many emotions, of anger, bitterness, sadness, dispair etc, and I think love - all jumbled together at once.

However, the bright side of the whole thing, I was man enough to tell the truth and I ultimately did grow from the whole thing.

When was this? 8th, going into 9th grade in the summer of 78.