Off to the Sunshine State

[mrdreamjeans]

I leave in an hour for the Houston airport where I will fly this afternoon to Ft Myers via Atlanta. "Evita" opens tomorrow in Ft Myers for 8 shows. My 78-year-old Cousin Shirley is flying in with a friend from Erie, PA to see me there. It will be a short week with folks long on experience:)

A friend from Cleveland, Ohio sent me a piece of advice he recently received via email. I'm going to be pondering this statement today, looking at it from all sides. I think it has merit........."Before you speak, ask yourself ... is it kind, is it necessary, is it true, does it improve on the silence?"

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[deebee.livejournal.com]

hope you do well, handsome

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Thanks! Keep me posted as to how your production of "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" goes. Hugs!

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

I agree. I especially need to work on answering the last question..."Does it improve on the silence?" I spend so much time alone that I sometimes forget that it is quality in communication that counts. I sometimes speak just to break the silence. Hugs!

[dr-scott.livejournal.com]

...and that leaves out the message sent by making the effort to communicate, entirely aside from the content. Sometimes we speak just to show we care enough to, or realize the recipient will appreciate hearing from us no matter that we have nothing useful to say.

With that added, I try to live by those words, though part of me wants the truth out whether it is kind or not, since in the end it isn't truly kind to let people keep believing things that aren't so.

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Thanks Curtis....

Sometimes we speak just to show we care enough to, or realize the recipient will appreciate hearing from us no matter that we have nothing useful to say.

As I've gotten to know some of my "friends" here on live journal, when some of those virtual acquaintances have moved into my reality, I do love to hear from them...just to hear from them. It makes me feel connected...at least by the heart strings...

Hope you are feeling better and that the settling in period continues happily. Hugs!

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

AH, so you're searching for a silent compliment and pat on the back...and here I thought it was because you were just on to the next thing:) Sometimes, it's nice when you are isolated (meaning me at times) to know that someone who you consider a friend (meaning you) will comment just to make you present in their life.

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

You didn't fail:) I grinned at your comment and got the context, but my comment was also wrapped up in the subsequent comments of drscott and you that followed. Our friend Curtis is a pretty astute observer of human nature, besides being such a hottie:)!

[quietkub.livejournal.com]

that is a very good quote to think about.. thank you for sharing this

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

I believe I'm going to write this quote out and post in on my dressing room mirror. That's the place I seem to be most tempted to ignore its message:)

[sf-blacksocks.livejournal.com]

Is your freind a buddhist, or have buddhist leainings? It sounds very buddhist.

So, have you asked yourself that question as the day goes on?

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

My friend isn't Buddhist; I believe he's Wiccan...if that's the correct way to use the term. I've known Rick for 25 years and my nickname for him is Merlin.

I think you are correct about the origins of the philosophy behind the quote. Thanks for commenting...

[sflonestar.livejournal.com]

Enjoy Ft. Myers, Neil! It's great that Shirley is coming to see the show. Wow! That's quite an age discrepancy for cousins! My oldest cousin is just 16 years my senior! Hugs!

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Shirley is my Mother's contemporary. She's actually my second cousin, but for years I actually thought she was my aunt. She's always been a close part of our lives. She's an interesting person... a spinster, she started out as a secretary for a large dairy company and retired as one of the owners. She's an avid golfer and always travels in the company of women. I used to pin my best hopes on her that I had another type of "family" in the family; but alas, she's just very religious and never felt the need to marry....The best thing about Ft Myers is that I feel really young here:)

[sfbear.livejournal.com]

hope you had a good vaction. :) Good luck on the new set of shows. I got my tickets for Mambo Kings, I am my own Wife and i am so happy Les Miserables my first play I have ever seen in my life in NYC and can not wait to see it again.

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a really fun trio of works to see! Something new in "Mambo Kings", a challenging and celebrated one-man work in "I Am My Own Wife" and a terrific historical musical in "Les Miserables". Someday, I'm going to play Valjean in Les Mis... I am determined:) Enjoy! Enjoy!