A Special Birthday .. and "Meme-abilia"

[mrdreamjeans]

I want to take a moment and wish the inimitable, well-respected and well-loved pagerbear a very Happy Birthday!! David, may your day be filled with happiness and celebrated with your beloved pagercub at your side! Hugs from Texas!

There are many memes out there right now, so just let me sum up: my personality type was B+, I'd be Comet if I was a reindeer, I'm perfectly comfortable making up a number for my IQ without taking the test and my answers for the "50 Questions for People Who Are A Little More Mature" Meme are: (macduff131 here ya go! :)

Here are 50 questions for the people who are a little more "mature"... I answered these questions about two weeks ago.

1. What bill do you hate paying the most?
Credit Cards ... Hate paying the interest

2. Where was the last place you had a romantic time?
Seattle ... 19 months ago

3. Do you regret losing your virginity to who you lost it to?
Depends on the definition of virginity. Parts of me are still unexplored:)

4. If you could go back and change one thing what would it be?
I would have stayed in NYC. Wouldn't have sabotaged my success so much.

5. Name of your first grade teacher?
Don't remember ... I can tell you second through fifth grades though ..

6. What do you really want to be doing right now?
Getting ready to do a show.

7. What did you want to be when you were growing up?
Singer/Actor/Writer ... It's exactly what I've done for most of my working life.

8. How many colleges did you attend?
1 - Graduated with a degree in History and English .. Magna Cum Laude.

9. Why did you choose the shirt that you have on right now?
I was awakened at 7:30am by tree-trimmers who asked me to move my car. I grabbed this blue flannel shirt to throw on.

10. What are your thoughts on gas prices?
We're being prepped for $4.00/gallon gas and the current administration could care less if it affects folks on a tight budget.

11. If you could move anywhere and take someone with you who and where?
Minneapolis, Seattle, Berlin .. I wouldn't take anyone with me because in most cases I'd be moving there to be with friends.

12. First thought when the alarm went off this morning?
No alarm. The door bell rang at 7:30am.

13. Last thought before going to sleep last night?
Oh, God, I need this job. (Interview today)

14. Favorite style of underwear?
white briefs

16. What errand/chore do you despise
Washing dishes, shining shoes, cleaning my car. Oddly, I love doing laundry and vacuuming.

17. If you didn't have to work, would you volunteer?
Sure.

18. Get up early or sleep in?
I sleep in till 9am most days. That's about to change, I think ...

19. What is your favorite cartoon character?
Stewie griffin & Brian. The Animanaics .. Pinky and the Brain

20. Favorite thing to do at night with a girl/guy?
Well, my old answer doesn't apply right now. So, I'll say going to the theatre:)

21. Have you found real love yet?
Yes, I have. It didn't last as a relationship, but it has lasted as a friendship. I would argue that "real love" can be defined as a friendship. If that is acceptable, then I have found real love several times over ...

22. When did you first start feeling old?
I don't feel old now. I won't feel old at 80. I am happy to be alive.

23. Favorite 80s movie?
Were there movies in the 80's?

24. Your favorite lunch meat?
I don't like lunch meats much .. I suppose sliced smoked turkey.

25. What do you get every time you go into Sam's Club?
Change the question to Costco and I might have an answer. Though I own Walmart stock, I won't shop at Sam's.

26. Beach or lake?
Lake

27. Do you think marriage is an outdated ritual?
No.

28. Do you own property?
Yes.

29. Favorite guilty pleasure?
Reality dance shows and HGTV

30. Favorite movie you wouldn't want anyone to find out about?
If I told you, then it wouldn't be a secret:)

31. What's your drink?
Milk. I don't drink alcohol, never have.

32. Cowboys or Indians?
Cowboys

33. Cops or Robbers?
Cops (more specifically CSI)

34. Who from high school would you like to run into?
I graduated decades ago and never looked back. I can't even come up with a name. The people don't mean anything to me.

35. What radio station is your car radio tuned to right now?
Sirius 77, the Broadway Channel

36. Long and fast or short and slow?
Long and slow.

37. ????

38. Worst relationship mistake that you wish you could take back?
Helping someone solve a serious problem, pushing them at their request, then having the relationship suffer from the intensity of the solution.

39. Do you like the person who sits directly next to you at work?
No co-workers

40. What famous person would you like to have dinner with?
Angela Lansbury ... followed by ridiculous sex ... with George Eads:)

41. Indoors or Outdoors?
Indoors

42. Have you ever crashed your vehicle?
Depends on the definition of "crashed". I've been in a couple of fender benders. Never
"crashed" my car.

43. Have you ever had to use a fire extinguisher for its intended purpose?
No.

44. Last book you read for real?
I read a novel a week. The last book I completed was "The Tell-Tale Horse" by Rita Mae Brown.

45. Do you have a teddy bear?
I have sacks of them in storage. Many of them are "themed" according to the show I was doing at the time and were gifts. Some I won at Circus-Circus in La Vegas more than 20 years ago.

46. Have you ever peed in public?
Not while anyone was looking.

47. Somewhere in California you've never been and would like to go?
I've been everywhere I wanted to go in California many times.

48. Do you go to church?
I belong to a church, but don't often attend.

49. At this point in your life would you rather start a new career or a new relationship?
Relationship. I just want my long-time career back!

50. Open or closed marriage?
Closed .. I'm not wired to share. Used to be open .. Used to believe it was true. It's a bunch of crap. It's just an excuse to indulge your excesses.

Comments

[faghatesgods.livejournal.com]

"It's a bunch of crap. It's just an excuse to indulge your excesses."

You should be careful not to use your own personal experiences and set of morals and ideals as a weapon to fire against those who feel, and live, differently.

This is no different than saying 'homosexuals are all disgusting'

I was being hard on myself ...

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

My answer only applied to me and to how I feel I justified choices earlier in my life, how I explained my sex addiction away. It wasn't an attack on anyone else's choices. If you or any other of my LJ friends took offense, I regret that. I am happy for anyone to be in a relationship of any definition that works for them.

Re: I was being hard on myself ...

[faghatesgods.livejournal.com]

No worries, I only commented because the statement seemed to contradict the accepting, generous nature I always see and like in you.

Re: I was being hard on myself ...

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Thank you.

[apparentparadox]

47. Somewhere in California you've never been and would like to go?
I've been everywhere I wanted to go in California many times.


So, you've been to the top of Mt. Tam on a clear day, walked along the Sacramento river Delta on a foggy morning, seen Mt. Shasta rising in the distance from over 100 miles away, heard a concert in Berkeley's Greek Theater, had a great steak at "Harris Steak Ranch", gone skiing at Heavenly Valley, walked to Point Bonita light house and have the fog clear while you were there, eaten at Chez Panisse Cafe, had a picnic in Golden Gate Park and then walked to the ocean, ridden the Nevada County Traction Company train, and been to SF for Gay Pride?

And that's just stuff in a small part of Northern CA. I'm sure that the Southern Californians have ideas too (like visiting Manzanar, Death Valley, or Griffith Observatory).

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Thanks for calling me on my shit:) I actually have done several things on your list, as both of my exes lived in the Bay Area at different times. Also, in the late 70's and early 80's, I had two SF-based boyfriends and have played SF, Sacramento, LA, San Jose and San Diego with shows. I've spent a lot of time there.

You've quite clearly shown my that my list isn't exhaustive. Maybe, I should just admit, I've been most everywhere I wanted to go, because I'm quite fussy about some things. LOL!

HUGS!

[apparentparadox]

Just remember to view the world with your eyes open, and you'll see lots of new things every day.

Wishing you all the best!

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

It's good to be reminded of that.

Hope your holidays in Ashland are happily memorable.

HUGS!

[apparentparadox]

Check out this!

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Hey, Thanks! Looks like Ashland is all dressed up for the holidays. I've been trying to get some good night time photos of decorations around here. You're been more successful than I am in accomplishing it! I really do have to spend some time in Ashland one day. I've only passed through on a couple of occasions.

HUGS!

[tonethbone.livejournal.com]

"...Used to believe it was true. It's a bunch of crap. It's just an excuse to indulge your excesses."

Bravely spoken ....I understood clearly that you were putting forth your own opinion...about what would work for you... and what makes you feel that way...and not attacking people who think differently about open and closed relationships. And I think I know you well enough to say that you wouldnt intentionally attack such people.

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

You are absolutely correct. I only speak for myself. I've lived and experienced many other permutations, definitions. I am all for everyone finding what works for them. However, I've found that my previous desire for an open relationship, was for me .. a bunch of crap. I really do want a one and only. I may not find it; I will adjust to the reality.

HUGS!

[designerotter.livejournal.com]

Berlin? - how'd that get in there? A show tour stop perhaps?
[I'm at Little Rock airport waiting to get back home ...and practicing using my laptop]

On the controversy over 'open' vs. 'closed'... I've learned to respect everyone's point of view on this. Somewhat to my surprise, my opinion has changed over time...or rather it has opened up to some degree. My ideal would probably be 'monogamous'. But then, life doesn't always offer the range of alternatives one would like, so there's some gambling involved. It's entirely possible to hold out for one's ideal- and never find it. But i don't mean that cynically. In short, I think we all develop a position through experience and do our best to balance what is with what ought to be.
I've missed you ! Hugs!!

I can understand and disagree ... and that's ok ...

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

My answer, one I wrote off the top of my head (after all I was answering a silly meme), seems to have pushed some buttons. I am fine with every permutation of relationship ... polyamorous, multiple same-sex, open, closed ... But, I've come to believe that monogamy is a good a choice for me ...I guess for some, it throws down the gauntlet to show me the error of my ways:) Sometimes, I think some folks try a little bit of everything hoping something sticks. It is human to want connection.

I always insisted on an "open" relationship, though my last one turned out to be monogamous. I discovered that I didn't mean it when I said I wanted an open relationship. My sex addiction was very strong ... took me into destructive territory. It's a bunch of crap. It's just an excuse to indulge your excesses. For me, this is true. It's how I feel and it isn't intolerant of anyone else's rules of engagement.

It's interesting. Many LJer's are intolerant of any discussion of religious beliefs ... any mention of them. This is just as judgmental as my statement about relationships. I don't think my point of view is the "right" one; it's simply mine and open to examination. I like to read about others' journeys through life, especially the ones so different from my own. I have friends who are Athiests, Budhists, Pagan, Christian, etc ... I'm fine with people believing what works for them ... But,I am entitled to my opinion too, even if it doesn't align with theirs and it is not an attack.

I live my life as I see fit. I aspire to a certain set of standards and ideals that only apply to me. They are ever evolving and changing, as I age and learn ...

I've missed you too. HUGS!

[thedreammwriter.livejournal.com]

let me sum up: my personality type was B+, I'd be Comet if I was a reindeer, I'm perfectly comfortable making up a number for my IQ without taking the test and my answers for the "50 Questions for People Who Are A Little More Mature" Meme are :(

That was great!!!

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Just thought I'd put it all together:)

[scottokc.livejournal.com]

2. Where was the last place you had a romantic time?
Seattle ... 19 months ago

Funny, the last place I had a romantic time was Seattle 15 months ago.

50. Open or closed marriage?
Closed .. I'm not wired to share. Used to be open .. Used to believe it was true. It's a bunch of crap. It's just an excuse to indulge your excesses.

I know you've taken some heat for this, but I agree with you. If I was in a relationship, I wouldn't want to fool around with anyone else.

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

If you can make a relationship work, no matter the definition or numbers, all the more power to you. I've tried many combinations in my lifetime and through much trial and error, I've discovered that I want one-to-one. It's my opinion. People can call me naive, uninformed or wrong ... I take responsibility for it. It was how I felt in the moment answering #50 of a silly meme. It's not attacking what works for anyone else.

It appears both of us should be looking to the Pacific Northwest for romance:)

[scottokc.livejournal.com]

If you can make a relationship work, no matter the definition or numbers, all the more power to you. I've tried many combinations in my lifetime and through much trial and error, I've discovered that I want one-to-one. It's my opinion. People can call me naive, uninformed or wrong ... I take responsibility for it. It was how I felt in the moment answering #50 of a silly meme. It's not attacking what works for anyone else.

I haven't had many relationships. I had one guy who was a prospect, but we broke up when I found out that he wasn't monogamous. That really hurt.

It appears both of us should be looking to the Pacific Northwest for romance:)

The commute from Oklahoma City would be murder! :)

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

So, set your sights on moving. Remember, a dream is simply a goal without a plan. If you want to make such a move, I believe you can do it.

[scottokc.livejournal.com]

My house has been paid off for some time. I wouldn't be able to get much for it. I don't know how I'd afford rent on top of all of my other expenses. Moving is pretty much out of the question unless I moved in with someone. I've lived alone a long time, though. I sometimes think about moving, but a house that's paid for is a lot of security these days.

[macduff131.livejournal.com]

ridiculous sex ... with George Eads

oh. oh my...

[mrdreamjeans.livejournal.com]

Well, it's what came right up spontaneously as an answer:) LOL!

HUGS!