Your entry has garnered quite a response. As I started reading your comments and those of other people I recognised some of the stated responses and I began to ask myself what my situation was.
I grew up with two older brothers and a younger sister out in the suburbs of Melbourne, Australia. My brothers loved cars and sport like most of the guys in that place at that time. Not me. In High School I discovered how much fun girlfriends were and whilst I had a group of male friends, it was the girls homes I went to after school. I knew I was gay and girls provided a safe environment. The boys liked nothing better than taunting gay guys. I managed to fly under their radar for most of the time.
Then at University it was quite a melting pot of personalities. I studied cinema & drama so there were other gay guys as well as straight guys and lots of girls. It was a period of self discovery and friends were starting to "come out". It was the 80s though and the new Gay Disease retarded things a little.
I think I was about 23 when I came out to family and friends. I had entered work life and was enjoying a mix of friends but my female friends were always the closest. Not all of them were a success. It's still all about personalities whether they be male or female and there were a few disasters along the way.
Today my two best friends are women. One is from High School and the other from an early job. I have known each of them for over 25 years know. A third friend is a straight male that I have known since starting school at the age of 4! Although solid now our friendship has drifted at various times.
Now I am far away from all these people living in France . It has been difficult making new friends and I have had mixed success. I made a couple of good female friends in Paris. But here in Sth of France it has been much harder. Friendship with gay men has sometimes been mixed with sex which for me tends to complicate things as I am in a relationship. Sometimes guys who I have wanted as friends have been looking for sex but have "played" the friend card to get there. I haven't met any women here I have really connected with and I am missing the company of women. Actually since I have decided to not mix sex & friendship I now seem to have no friends at all, l
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Date: 2016-05-23 05:47 am (UTC)I grew up with two older brothers and a younger sister out in the suburbs of Melbourne, Australia. My brothers loved cars and sport like most of the guys in that place at that time. Not me. In High School I discovered how much fun girlfriends were and whilst I had a group of male friends, it was the girls homes I went to after school. I knew I was gay and girls provided a safe environment. The boys liked nothing better than taunting gay guys. I managed to fly under their radar for most of the time.
Then at University it was quite a melting pot of personalities. I studied cinema & drama so there were other gay guys as well as straight guys and lots of girls. It was a period of self discovery and friends were starting to "come out". It was the 80s though and the new Gay Disease retarded things a little.
I think I was about 23 when I came out to family and friends. I had entered work life and was enjoying a mix of friends but my female friends were always the closest. Not all of them were a success. It's still all about personalities whether they be male or female and there were a few disasters along the way.
Today my two best friends are women. One is from High School and the other from an early job. I have known each of them for over 25 years know. A third friend is a straight male that I have known since starting school at the age of 4! Although solid now our friendship has drifted at various times.
Now I am far away from all these people living in France . It has been difficult making new friends and I have had mixed success. I made a couple of good female friends in Paris. But here in Sth of France it has been much harder. Friendship with gay men has sometimes been mixed with sex which for me tends to complicate things as I am in a relationship. Sometimes guys who I have wanted as friends have been looking for sex but have "played" the friend card to get there. I haven't met any women here I have really connected with and I am missing the company of women. Actually since I have decided to not mix sex & friendship I now seem to have no friends at all, l