My closest female relationship growing up was with the mother of my best friend in high school. Certainly not sexual in any way, Ellie was my mentor. She taught me how to drive, how to tie a tie, how to interact with people. She encouraged me to grow out of the shy adolescent and face the world. We talked in more depth about life and the world then I did with anyone else. Her death when I was married and 24 affected me more than any other death I've had in my life.
Friendships with older women seems to have followed me, possibly from that early relationship. I trust older women intellectually, where men have always been at arms length for me. I've had male friendship, but there is always the element of tease and fun that's not really there with the femail relationships.
The flip side of that is that I also am frustrated by what I perceive as the jekyll and hyde part of women. That came from dealing with the day-to-day emotions of women in an office environment. Every morning was a challenge, not knowing if the women in the office would be friendly and pleasant or a mess of angst and unpleasantness. Men, I didn't have that issue with. If I said "Hi" to men in the mornings, I'd get the same "Hi" back with no drama.
Women that are my peers I enjoy hanging around with, especially Lesbians. I'm not sure I always fit with the crowd, but since there is no sexual drama with women for me, it makes is okay (unless it slides into the 'office drama' type thing.
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Date: 2010-11-06 03:03 pm (UTC)My closest female relationship growing up was with the mother of my best friend in high school. Certainly not sexual in any way, Ellie was my mentor. She taught me how to drive, how to tie a tie, how to interact with people. She encouraged me to grow out of the shy adolescent and face the world. We talked in more depth about life and the world then I did with anyone else. Her death when I was married and 24 affected me more than any other death I've had in my life.
Friendships with older women seems to have followed me, possibly from that early relationship. I trust older women intellectually, where men have always been at arms length for me. I've had male friendship, but there is always the element of tease and fun that's not really there with the femail relationships.
The flip side of that is that I also am frustrated by what I perceive as the jekyll and hyde part of women. That came from dealing with the day-to-day emotions of women in an office environment. Every morning was a challenge, not knowing if the women in the office would be friendly and pleasant or a mess of angst and unpleasantness. Men, I didn't have that issue with. If I said "Hi" to men in the mornings, I'd get the same "Hi" back with no drama.
Women that are my peers I enjoy hanging around with, especially Lesbians. I'm not sure I always fit with the crowd, but since there is no sexual drama with women for me, it makes is okay (unless it slides into the 'office drama' type thing.